Authors Against Bullying Campaign – Author Tara Sivec

 

FEATURED AUTHOR TODAY

TARA SIVEC

Please help us welcome Tara Sivec as our featured author today in the “Authors Against Bullying Campaign 2012”.  Tara is an incredibly busy mother and sensational author who truly deserves the Woman of the Year award yet still graciously offered up some of her time to contribute a feature post to our campaign-as well as ONE OF HER BOOKS for our giveaway!

Read what Tara has to say about bullying, then read more about Tara and her books and MAKE SURE TO ENTER THE HUGE GIVEAWAY at the bottom:

TARA SIVEC ON BULLYING:

“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” 

 I’ve been thinking a lot about this quote lately.  My son who is in Kindergarten was recently bullied on the school bus a few weeks ago.  A boy in the fifth grade hit him in the arm and threatened to choke him.  When I heard the news, my first instinct was to go all Hulk Hogan on the kid, find out where he lives and beat the crap out of him.  But that’s illegal and frowned upon in most circles.  Then the thought went through my mind that I should tell my son, “Well, if he does it again, hit him back!”  But that doesn’t solve anything.  That just teaches my child to protect himself against bullying by becoming a bully himself.  

Putting my child on the school bus every day, I am trusting that he will be safe and loved and cared for while he is away from me.  Finding out that an 11 year old is being mean to my little peanut of a 5 year old fills me with such rage and sadness that it’s hard to get past the anger to give your child the words and the wisdom to get him through something like this.  My heart breaks when I think of someone doing something to my child when I’m not there to defend him.  But now that he’s in school, there’s nothing I can do to protect him other than give him good advice.  I can’t ride the school bus every day with him, I can’t sit in class next to him and I can’t go to recess and watch from the sidelines for threats, my attitude at the ready for anyone even thinking about doing him harm.  The only thing I can do as a parent is to teach him right from wrong.  To tell him that no matter what someone does to you, be the bigger person and be nice.  If someone hits you, you never hit them back.  If someone says hurtful things to you, ignore them and tell the teacher, the bus driver and especially me.  Even though I can’t be there every moment of the day to protect him, I WILL make sure he never feels helpless.  I will make sure he knows that I will always do whatever I can to keep him safe, even if the only thing I can do is call the school or have a meeting with the principal. 

Education starts at home.  I remind my children constantly to never pick on someone, regardless if they are stronger or weaker than you or if they started it first.  Never say or do anything to anyone if it isn’t something you’d want said or done to you.  I tell them to put themselves in other people’s shoes, to imagine what it would be like to have insults or fists thrown at them and if it would make them happy or sad.  I tell them that not all children have awesome parents like they do who will teach their children to always be nice to others J  Not all parents will take the time to remind their children that their words and actions can and will hurt another person if they aren’t careful. 

I will take the time.  Each and every day I will make sure my children know that bullying doesn’t solve anything.  It doesn’t make you a better person and it doesn’t make your problems go away.  Please, take the time to talk to your children.  One more child learning about the awful consequences of bullying means one less bully out there in the world. 

ABOUT TARA SIVEC

Tara Sivec is a best selling author, wife, mom, chauffeur, cheerleading coach, soccer coach, babysitter, short-order cook, genius and albino squirrel hunter. She lives in Ohio with her husband and two kids. In her spare time she likes to read, write and cover things in chocolate. Most of her material comes from real life experiences with family and friends. Lucky for them, the names have been changed to protect the innocent (aka, drunk).

 

 

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